Perhaps the greatest freedom is to be free of the opinion of others.
Encountering criticism and judgement can be part of life’s course. Not everyone may know you/ get you/ gel with you/ share the same beliefs as you, etc.
Not everyone likes kale, or licorice, or celery. Doesn’t mean you go trying to be a banana if you’re not! (Getting a bit abstract with analogies here ;))
And everyone has their ‘stuff’; issues/ beliefs/ shadows/ fears/ insecurities/ projections, and so on.
What beliefs and opinions do you hold, even, that might not be wholly true or honouring of another (or yourself)?
Check out this exceptionally inspiring Global Love share from NY Times Bestselling author Jen Sincero:
Jen Sincero makes this beautiful point in her post:
“We throw a wet blanket of ho-hummery over our lives when we live in fear of what others might think, instead of in celebration of who we are.”
She goes on to cover the “only 3 questions you ever need to consider when making decisions about your life”, and 4 ways to “truly not care what other people think and be your most powerful Self”“.
Stand up and do anything and you may get stuff thrown at you. That could be love, kindness, and support, or it could be the opposite, or any shade in between.
Of course, as Jen Sincero points out, “What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.”
I personally now see negatives as helping me develop even deeper self-love and a more unshakable foundation of worth.
Jen makes the valuable point that feedback, constructive criticism (and constructive complimenting) can, of course, be helpful. It’s not about avoiding, becoming numb to, or in denial about that.
Reality may also reflect back our limiting beliefs, fears, wounds, stories, etc. that we can address to heal and transform.
Jen’s advice on this is not only extremely empowering, it’s great fun too!
This week was International Womens Day. If you’re a woman you may have encountered opinions about you based on your gender alone. People may not even be conscious they are doing that. That can be the case for men too, of course.
What beliefs do you hold about your own or the opposite gender, as an example?
Are any of those potentially unserving?
How can we be conscious of the beliefs and opinions we hold about any other?
And how can we be free from the negative impact of others’ opinions, regardless?
Jen Sincero lights the way in her fantastic share from her NY Times Bestselling book “You Are A Badass”!
[The above is an excerpt from the Global Love ezine, which you can register for and receive 5 heart-nourishing gifts via our Gifts Page or any of the join boxes at this website].