Do you ever feel doubtful about a situation, decision, direction, job, person, idea…?
Elizabeth Hallowell, AKA Intuitive Fish, explores possible differences between what can be symptoms of self-doubt, versus red-flags.
These can help with awareness around blocks and resistances in general too, as well as beliefs, thoughts, feelings and attitudes.
How does self-doubt show up for you? Recognize any of the symptoms listed by Elizabeth below?
Doubt is natural and can have its benefits too in the sense that inquiry can be liberating and is part of humility and openness. Doubt sourced from ego and self-doubt when unfounded, however, can be debilitating, paralyzing even.
I’m feeling some self-doubt while writing this in relation to whether what I’m sharing is relevant. Sometimes after sending out an email, as well as whatever else I’m experiencing, I’ve noticed self-doubt escalate, sometimes feeling shame rise up. Self-doubt can be connected with shame. More on shame to come.
Being aware of self-doubt, its roots, and how it shows up for you can help. Witnessing whatever is occurring in your consciousness can allow it to be there and move through without taking grip.
Having uncertainty is part of life, especially if something is new with unfamiliarity and the unknown. That’s where trust comes in. Nothing is guaranteed in life, and there can be gifts in challenges encountered. Possible pitfalls aren’t necessarily red flags to moving in a direction; life can have its hills and valleys, highs and lows, etc., which may also be valuable experiences on your soul’s journey.
There’s a difference between uncertainty, and both doubt/self-doubt, and red flags, however.
If you’re going to doubt something, doubt your doubts.
Here are some questions that arose for reflection around self-doubt:
- If/when you doubt yourself, why do you doubt yourself?
- What do you feel has led to or is causing your self-doubt?
- What types of thoughts and feelings is your self-doubt connected to?
- What possible beliefs about yourself is your self-doubt connected to?
- What fears are connected to your self-doubt? Are there limiting beliefs behind those fears?
- Is there a particular area you tend to have more self-doubt around than another?
- Do you notice your levels of self-doubt vary depending on how you are feeling about yourself or in general, who you’re with, or any other factors?
- Have certain life experiences impacted your levels of self-doubt, and in what way?
Responsibility for yourself as a co-creator, and for your self-doubt, can help with any situation around which there may be doubt.
Cynicism is relevant for a mention here as it is a form of projected self-doubt.
Ever have someone be cynical about you for no known reason?
What or who are you yourself cynical about (or tend to be)?
Cynicism reflects hidden self-doubt and what you may secretly believe you lack, which you then doubt externally.
Red flags can be teachers, not only with discernment and what to move forward with or not, but with what they are showing you in general, why they are showing up in your life when they are, and what you can learn from them.
Some of the red flags Elizabeth lists, as she points out, might not be red-flags about a given situation, but about how you are approaching or dealing with that situation and what’s going on within in terms of your perspectives, attitudes, hidden agendas, and so on. In this sense the list includes both inner and outer red flags to be aware of.
What comes to mind also here is to reflect on where choices are stemming from. What’s the intention behind any particular decision? Is a choice coming from what feels like a true, balanced, or loving space, for example? Or is it coming from fear, guilt, shame, control, judgement or some other constrictive space?
Your intuition and following your heart can be valuable with any discernment where doubt or red-flags are potentially raising their heads.
Some antidotes to self-doubt include self-acceptance, self-value and self-love, trust in the Universe/Creation/God, self-trust, self-belief, and confidence.
Trust in yourself, your love, your power as a co-creator, and in the love the universe has for you. And value yourself enough to trust your visions and trust your decisions.
Stepping outside of comfort zones and embracing flow can also help with moving beyond doubt or resistance.
♥ Aine Belton